I’m a recovering control freak.
Originally I didn’t think or know I was. It’s kinda like me being an overachiever. I never thought of myself as one of ‘those kind of people’ either. When I was a kid I thought, overachievers are…
Annoying.
Obnoxious.
Narcissistic.
Did I mention annoying?
Even with my generally laid-back demeanor I realized I WAS one of those kind of people. I got to see how my overly positive, know-it-all nature could annoy the crap out of folks.
And as an adult, an artist, and business owner, my control freak nature had me playing small. I could only grow as far as I could see and do. I didn’t trust in what I couldn’t control or the unfamiliar.
Iyanla Vanzant said, “I know how to be broke and poor and struggle and suffer and be angry. I know how to do that. But when it comes to being open and vulnerable—because the core ingredient of trust is vulnerability—that’s unfamiliar.”
Why trust?
Why be vulnerable?
What’s so special about the unknown?
Jonas Salk said, “Hope lies in dreams, in imagination and in the courage of those who dare to make dreams into reality.”
Albert Einstein’s theory of relativity was inspired by a dream he had, not research and analysis.
The big shifts come from the unknown. Think about it. If you applied for a loan and received $40,000 would you call that a miracle?
Maybe, but probably not.
Why? Because you applied for the loan. You filled out the application. You provided documents, You managed your credit, etc. That’s all stuff that’s known! But if a relative you didn’t know you had died and left you $40,000, which is more satisfying?
If you’re like me I’m guessing the $40k you don’t have to pay back.
And don’t think this kind of stuff never happens to you. I bet it happens all the time, you’re just not looking for it or you call it a coincidence.
For example, last year I had my biggest client sell ever. Was that person already a client? No. Did they come by way of my amazing marketing? No. They came from the unknown.
Did my marketing and those things help. Yes, I’m sure it all helped with the booking itself but those things did not bring the client to my doorstep in the first place.
So how do you put trust and faith into the unknown and go thru control freak rehab like I did?
Glad you asked.
Dr. Joe Dispenza answers that in his blog post, The Unknown Will Never Let You Down: Part II.
“If you truly and repeatedly conditioned your body to feel thankful, appreciative, empowered, free, and in love with life every day, then in time it makes sense that you would trust your future completely. And chances are likely that stepping into and trusting the unknown will create a whole bunch of new opportunities that you would have never seen coming.”
Adam