I got a Facebook friend request.
I ignored it for about a week. …or two. The request came from someone I didn’t know.
I don’t mind friending strangers if they seem sincere. This gal on the other hand, was hustlin’. I looked at her profile and it said something about taking coaches to $20k a month or something like that.
All I could think was, here we go again… [insert eye roll here…]
The moment I ‘friended’ her she started asking me questions about my biz and what I do. I received an invitation to her Facebook group too. I could have ran for the hills but like watching a bad movie, I wanted to see how it was going to end. As Jim Rohn said you can learn from success but you can also learn from failure.
Keep in mind, I’m not mad her. I’m all for the hustle. I’d rather see you do it wrong than not all. There’s tons of people who have the same dreams that you do that are perfectly happy sitting on their couch watching The Office reruns.
I have no idea if this lady is ‘successful’ in this approach or not but I wouldn’t touch this technique with a 10 foot pole. It would be like inviting you to my son’s birthday party then when you get here try to sell you life insurance.
It’s sleazy.
Kinda Shallow.
And totally unnecessary.
It’s an old Business Paradigm maneuver. Let me ask you some questions so I can later tell you why you need to buy what I’m selling. It’s like the desperate guy at the club at 2am trying to say whatever he can to get laid.
It’s the same approach made famous by salesmen in tacky suits at used car lots.
When you have a prospect, especially if it’s a cold one, make sure you have a good soft approach. One technique I learned from Eric Worre is to start with a compliment. Had she started with saying something nice about what I do, or my kids, or something else on my Facebook page, I may have taken her friend request seriously.
But she didn’t.
Hell, even Trader Joes asks me about my dog when I buy dog food or treats!
It comes down to this. If you want people to be interested in you, be interested in them.
First.
Adam