I had a friend who went thru a harsh divorce.
His ex basically screwed him over in just about every way she could imagine. It’s like she burned down their house and kicked him in the nards on her way running out. Leaving him to pick up all the pieces of his life. I felt for him.
For years he played the victim card.
The ‘whoa is me’ card.
The ‘if only’ card.
I thought, he really needs a new card to play…
As I did my own personal development over those years I knew one thing that could have helped him ease the pain faster than Tylenol for a headache.
It’s forgiveness.
Lewis B. Smedes said, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
My friend was a prisoner for years, and so was I. It seems forgiving other people was easy for me to do but I never really considered the value of forgiving myself.
Forgiving yourself is one of your ultimate super-powers.
I read books and listened to seminars where we would forgive ourselves and then jump to goals and affirmations to attain what we wanted to do or have.
Eventually I realized forgiveness is like fitness. If you want guns like Terrell Owens or the abs of Jillian Michaels, you gotta work on it.
Every day.
This effected me most with money and growing my business. I had to forgive myself.
Every day.
Sometimes 10 times a day.
There were days I could feel the head-trash coming in like sonar. My lizard brain would kick in and start to poison me by bringing up what I did wrong in the past.
Could I stop it? No, I couldn’t. But I let the past be the past and I forgave myself.
I would say, Adam, you didn’t know. I forgive you.
Denise Duffield-Thomas has a good one, she says: “I forgive you… I’m sorry… I love you…”
If you have blocks in your money, your life, or your career you may need to forgive someone.
And that someone may be you.
Adam